JK Rowling is the muggle behind world’s most beloved Harry Potter series, and one of the women that I truly look up to in terms of creative writing, rising through adversity and of course, magic. Her best selling novels and worldwide fan base are the living testament to her personal journey through life. As a single mother battling against depression, her personal life story before Harry Potter was more or less something to be frowned upon. However, like a phoenix JK Rowling rises up and eventually transforms her life into something magical, even beyond her wildest of imagination. I love this woman.
On Adversities and Failures
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.”
“The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift, for all that it is painfully won, and it has been worth more than any qualification I ever earned.”
“Life is difficult, and complicated, and beyond anyone’s total control, and the humility to know that will enable you to survive its vicissitudes.”
“Failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged.”
– JK Rowling
“I cannot criticize my parents for hoping that I would never experience poverty. They had been poor themselves, and I have since been poor, and I quite agree with them that it is not an ennobling experience. Poverty entails fear, and stress, and sometimes depression; it means a thousand petty humiliations and hardships. Climbing out of poverty by your own efforts, that is indeed something on which to pride yourself, but poverty itself is romanticized only by fools.
“There is an expiration date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you.”
♥ Practice the virtue of self-compassion. Instead of opting for self-destructive activities, try seeing yourself as an individual that needs a little compassion.
♥ Pamper yourself.
♥ Don’t bottle up your emotions. It’s good to have a healthy release every once in a while. Cry your eyes out. Yell at a blank space. Destroy something. Throw stuff away. You know, as long as you don’t hurt anyone or yourself.
♥ Surround yourself with positive energy. Clean your room. Pack old clothes and items for donation. Light a scented candle. Dance naked in front of the mirror. Cook dinner. Making small steps to celebrate your win over your sorrow is a great manifestation practice.
♥ Write all your fears, regrets and negative feelings onto a piece of paper. Acknowledge it. Burn it. Let it go.
♥ Keep the faith burning. I know, trials are there for a reason. It’s meant to scar us and rip us apart, but keep a little light of hope burning.
♥ Do something nice for other people. Every person has their own struggles, and it can be strangely therapeutic to help other people when you can’t even help yourself. Karma will eventually fall in your favor.
♥ Focus your energy on your blessings and what you’re truly passionate about.
♥ Keep doing what you love doing. JK’s failures didn’t stop her from writing.
On Taking Charge and Self Worth
“As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.”
“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”
“I believe in free will. Of those that, like us, are in a privileged situation at least. For you, for me: people who are living in western society, people who are not repressed, who are free. We can choose. The things go largely like you want them to go. You control your own life. Your own will is extremely powerful.”
“You can choose, you can go one of two ways. You can be the person I probably admire more and say ‘well I don’t care and I’ll continue not to bother to brush my hair.’ Or you can be a weak-willed person like me and think ‘oh I’d better get my act together. And maybe my mother was right and I do need to put my hair back and tidy myself up a bit.’ So I did tidy myself up a bit. But I do often resent the amount of time that it takes to pull yourself together to go on TV, I really do. If I sound bitter, then that accurately reflects how I feel about the subject.”
“Whatever money you might have, self-worth really lies in finding out what you do best.”
“We’ve all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That’s who we really are.”
“Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.”
– JK Rowling
♥ Say three nice things to yourself in the mirror as you wake up.
♥ Learn the art of mentally getting out of the situation and finding the silver lining.
♥ Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude.
♥ Analyze how you feel before you react to any negative situation. Not necessarily about the consequences, but of how you’d see and feel about wasting energy on something that’s not worth your time.
♥ Be real. Don’t apologize for your personal opinions on things.
♥ Freedom is essential to happiness. Rebel if you must, but do so peacefully and productively, and in a way that you’re doing what you love most without stepping on people.
♥ Don’t hate. Celebrate. Stop being a control freak to the point of feeling the need to transform every fixer-upper you meet. Know that everyone else is playing their freedom card with every choice they make. Other people may not always resonate with your points of view but look at it closer and try to understand where they’re coming from.
♥ Brighten up someone’s day. Send love notes. Share fun memes and vines. Give unlimited solids for a day.
♥ Live a life without any regret. Celebrate failures and setbacks, for it weren’t for those, you would never have learned anything.
On Magic and Imagination
“I don’t think there’s any harm at all in allowing a kid to fantasize. In fact, I think to stop people from fantasizing is a very destructive thing indeed.”
“Imagination is not only the uniquely human capacity to envision that which is not, and therefore the fount of all invention and innovation. In its arguably most transformative and revelatory capacity, it is the power that enables us to empathize with humans whose experiences we have never shared.
Unlike any other creature on this planet, humans can learn and understand, without having experienced. They can think themselves into other people’s places.
We do not need magic to change the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves already: we have the power to imagine better.”
– JK Rowling
“The world is full of wonderful things you haven’t seen yet. Don’t ever give up on the chance of seeing them.”
“It is important to remember that we all have magic inside us.”
♥ Keep reading. Writers like JK Rowling definitely swear on the power of reading in being able to help fuel their imagination and writing urges.
♥ Have an Evernote handy! It’s my favorite iOS tool whenever an idea sparks in my head, in the most unfortunate of situations, and I have to write about it (or else I’ll forget later and that’s really annoying).
♥ Don’t waste paper. Being able to edit and re-edit your story without harming mother nature is what document editing software is for.
♥ Don’t be a harsh literary critic. I speak of this from experience. I am a terrible critic, and this in a way paralyzes me from writing a good story because I’ll always overthink things and be a bit paranoid about loopholes and predictability.
♥ Surround yourself with inspiration. Fill up your room with visual images that spark your imagination. Travel somewhere. Meet and find your tribe of creative individuals.